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On Frigidity..

image 263 On Frigidity..The term frigidity is defined as the inability of a woman to attain orgasm during intercourse or can be referred to a female sexual arousal disorder. This can also be related to lack or absence of sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity. To have a better understanding of the definition it is the counter part of impotence which is being experienced by male individuals.

This may not be known to many of us but there is a very high percentage of women having this kind of dilemma.  Some research books say that there are 2 kinds of frigidity; the first one is the total lack of sexual desire while the other one still has sexual desire but lacks desire for current partner.  These situations can be acquired through time or lifelong, which means that person has no sexual desire since birth.  In some cultures low sexual desire especially for women may be normal and on the contrary having high desire is a problem for them. This means that the concept whether the sexual desire is in a “normal” level depends on the culture and values of an individual.

Before females are plainly home makers, her main task is to nurse and train the children as well as prepare the clothing and food for the family and all other household chores which for some are very demeaning and more often they are being subjected to abuse because of financial dependency to their male partners. Sometimes this obstructs their sexual responses and psychological development.  Modern females are no longer just wives and mothers they contribute primarily on the finances which supports the whole family. They have now their careers and they are empowered to do everything because of their financial and economic stability.

There are actually a lot of factors affecting the sexual desire of a women, it can be a medical or health condition, psychiatric problem, environment or even her present relationship with her partner (having other woman or even financial stress) which prevent them from reacting to their intimate moments.  There are also females who take medicines which can affect their sexual arousal; example is taking birth control pills.  Sometimes if you feel being degraded because of unusual things present inside your bedroom like using sex toys or hand cuffs (for role play) you tend to respond negatively to your partner’s sexual actions.  For some having a bad experience in terms of intercourse, maybe its not pleasing or plainly the act is not satisfying that’s why they do not feel being aroused?

In our society, we recognize that sexual incompatibility is a problem and it is considered as a stress for the couple, more often it can lead to misunderstanding. But how does a male partner reacts to frigidity?  Some may also lack interest in having sexual intercourse as the female partner is not responding to his actions.  For some, they may care a little because more than anything they value the relationship and the companionship they spent through the years.

Masturbation..A Good or A Bad Habit?

mast1  Masturbation..A Good or A Bad Habit?Masturbation is defined by  many as a sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals, usually  to  the point of having orgasm. This means that you do need  a  partner  to  be  able  to  do this, you may ask for help from your friendly  vibrators  and sex toys or just simply use your hands or fingers. You may touch or rub your genitals and breasts (for female) to achieve your desired  sexual enjoyment.  Masturbation in the simplest word is having sex with yourself.

Studies found that masturbation is normal in both genders and applicable in  all ages. Some  surveys say that men actually masturbate more frequent compared to women.  For some, the younger ones masturbate a lot compared to the  older  ones  maybe because of curiosity. In reality, the normal times that  a  person masturbate is actually from several times per day to a week until  a  month  of  not  masturbating  at  all. There  are actually a lot variations  that  you  can do while masturbating.  Some prefer to videotape themselves while doing the act, others would love to have audience to watch them in action while the rest is comfortable masturbating in front of their partners.  Actually  for  the  others  they  feel embarrassed when doing it especially if being seen by someone.

Information from Health Survey shows that there is a great percentage of among  men  and  women  who  actually engaged in “sex in one’s self”. Some people  think that only people without partners are the ones doing the act, what  they don’t know is that most people with regular partners continue to masturbate. For  some, those who masturbate must be experiencing sexually deprivation  but its actually not. Many say that masturbating is related to having  mental  or sexual disorder.  Is masturbating really bad or good for an individual?

Here are some of the benefits of masturbating:

  • having safe sex
  • will not lead to unplanned pregnancy
  • treatment for sexual dysfunction
  • releases sexual tension
  • relaxes your muscles
  •  helps you fall asleep
  • reduces stress
  • enhances self-esteem

The one listed above are the benefits of masturbating in general it is a healthy way of sexual enjoyment. It is also important that you should familiarize your self with your own sexual responses so that you will know how to explain to your partner your needs and wants and it will eventually lead to a satisfying sexual encounters. Understanding what “turns on” the person is actually a great advantage to build the individual’s confidence and make the person feel content.

Here are the list of disadvantages:

  • Damage intelligence
  • Damage eye sight
  • Damage the organ
  • Feel tired and mentally disturb

In general there are a lot of benefits compared to its unsupported disadvantages.  Does this mean that we encourage everybody to do masturbation? Doing that is actually the person’s own preference based on his or her beliefs. If the person feels that it will be beneficial for him or her better do it but for the others who are a bit conservative and concern of what other people might think, they also have the option of not doing it.

Is it LOVE or LUST?

love or lust2 Is it LOVE or LUST?Do you really know the difference between love and lust? If someone is in a relationship or just admiring somebody from afar, it is difficult to determine what you truly feel for that person. How do you spot if it is a true love? You will know that it is love if you are committed to your partner for the rest of your life. You are with that person for a long time and very much aware of his or her flaws and you can’t even imagine life without that person despite your differences. You don’t need anything from this individual but you still need to stay his or her side. In terms of physical intimacy, you feel closer o the person after having sex and you always try thing to keep the flame alive in your relationship. If that person is the one that you think of when you want to share your innermost thoughts, then it must be love. 

Lust on the other hand is defined as a strong sexual desire or overwhelming crave for sexual pleasure like a sex toy. If you are in a relationship and you are looking for someone to boost your ego or you are looking to catch someone to go to bed with wearing that fancy lingerie, maybe what you feel is lust. You need this person because you benefit from him or her sexually or any other things. You don’t even see yourself settling down with this person and can’t act naturally if your with him or her; this is just infatuation or just a simple lust. For some, they can’t deny the fact that they are longing for that lust that helps them to increase their confidence and to feel that they are desirable. Actually men are more inclined to have one night stands while women then to connect love and lust to a higher degree like romance. Like men focus on body parts and things which are pleasing to the eyes,  women are more on security and serious matters

Nowadays, it is really confusing to define love but in this modern time you can actually feel in love even without having regular sex, this is applicable especially for partners who have been together for a long time already. For them, it is no longer the physical attraction that keeps them together but their attachment and commitment to one another that makes their relationship stronger. We now want our partner to give us both stability and affection, respect for our own individuality. We need to provide all the security to our partner that no matter what happens the relationship will stand through the test of time. It is really a challenge to survive especially now that a lot of temptations are present and it is truly impossible to sustain the desire to grow old together unless you really want to make it happen. We all know that love is a wonderful feeling that can be achieved if you have trust and respect for each other.

 

Sex In A Can

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Have you ever had a crush on someone that you almost think beyond your imagination?  If someone is infatuated, this person tends to do foolish acts. You always dream of being with that person and almost love everything about him or her. Even looking at the pictures, touching any part of the person’s body would be a dream come true for you.  Most of us admire famous stars or even porn stars and would like to spend time with these people. But, would this be possible?

In 1998, Steven Shubin came up with the idea of Fleshlight, which has acquired its patent on the same year.  The inventor turns your dream into reality.  What is Fleshlight? It is a brand of sex toys designed for people who would like to experience real flesh inside a can.  This male toy is marketed to heterosexual individuals, those people with different sexual preferences.    It’s like having sex with the real person as the sexual organ is being molded or replicated.

Fleshlight is now the #1 male sex toys in the world.  The sleeves are stored inside a plastic container that helps it attain the look of a flashlight. It is very discreet that you can always stash it in your drawer and  even  if  someone accidentally sees this, it’s hard to tell unless that person  has  an  idea  on  what  is  inside  the can. The inner sleeves are available in female organ, anus and mouth that resemble like an actual human body or part. It has a texture of super skin that feels like you are having an actual sex with the person. You can do different strokes like up and down, right and left or even circular motion. The intense feeling of sexual penetration comes in reality with this toy. It is available in different colors:  flesh, ice/crystal clear, black and even blue to represent different nationalities.

Have you seen the movie American Pie?  My favorite part was when the movie star put his dick inside a hot pie which directly came from an oven. The sensation with Fleshlight will be quite similar except that using a toy will be more hygienic and will give you a better sensation.

There  are  few  tips  that  you  need  to  follow  to  really enjoy your Fleshlight  experience.  First, soak the item in a warm water to adapt its temperature.  Then, use any lubricant so you can freely move the toy in any motion while your organ is inside it. Fleshlight is also considered as discreet sperm collector as the sperm after ejaculation can be housed inside the can.  It is definitely safe compared to an actual sexual activity because it can minimize spread of sexual diseases, premarital sex and early pregnancy. This rubber thing has different versions but can be classified into the following:

Fleshlight  Girls- masturbators molded from private parts of popular female pornstars like Jessica Drake and Asa Akira.

Fleshjack by  Fleshlight ? is designed for gay people, marturbators molded from  private  parts  of popular male pornstars like Brent Everett and Cody Cummings

Make it possible with Fleshlight.  Now, you can now enjoy sex anytime,anywhere with your pornstar crushes!

Homosexuality and Anal Sex

homosexuality usa4 Homosexuality and Anal Sex We  all  know  that there are 2 kinds of gender present on earth, a male and a female but we can’t  deny that fact that there are other sexes in between, they are from the  community of lesbians and gays. Lesbian and gay people are homosexual or those who are sexually attracted to members of the same sex. This means that they prefer the same sex relationship from romantic to just close relationships. Some of them even bring their relationship to another level and decided to have same sex marriage which is acceptable in some parts of the globe.

It is difficult to define homosexuality because some people who are known  to  be  lesbians or gays  enter  or  have  entered  heterosexual relationships. For example, a married man who eventually left his wife of 10 years for a gay person or a now lesbian who had sexual relationship withhis boyfriend of 5 years. So it’s really confusing, that’s why we have asmall percentage of people who engage in themselves in same sex practice or identify themselves as gay or lesbian.

For those who prefer same sex for a partner especially for gays, they are engaged in anal sex or anal intercourse. The term anal sex is widely known as the penile-anal penetration which is also common in lesbian sexualpractices. This is the act of inserting the penis into another person’sanus or rectum to satisfy their sexual need. Fingering and use of sex toys such as butt plugs, anal beads and P-spots can also be considered anal sex.

Homosexual  intimate  moments  include  experimenting  on  penile-anal, mouth-penile  and  hand-anal  and  even  mouth-anal which  can  expose anindividual to different bacteria and micro organisms. We all know that rectum is not designed to do such activity; it is far from the function ofa female vagina.  The latter has its natural lubricants which can easily accommodate the penetration of a male organ.  The female vagina can endure the force and friction that a sexual interaction can bring.  On the other hand, the anus is a delicate part which is intended to eliminate toxins or fecal waste.  Having anal sex will seriously result to damaging the part by frequent friction and stretching.

These sexual relationships between members of the same sex are exposed to the risks of having Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), physical injuries and for some they even suffer from psychological problems. Having casual sex is not new to some; they are fond of doing “it” with a multiple partners which can lead to the risk of contacting diseases associated with risky sexual practices.  Most of them are susceptible to bacteria which can lead to diseases such as herpes, syphilis, Chlamydia and many more.

If you experience symptoms, do not hesitate to see your doctor. Simple sore throats should not be neglected because it can usually lead to a serious disease like HIV. All we need to do is to take that extra precaution to have safe sex by using condoms or simply by being hygienic during intercourse. Have your regular HIV test because prevention is always better than cure.

Size Matters

size matter4 Size Matters

We are already in a world where super sized meals, toys, cars, jobs or just about every thing else matter. It would be inevitable to think and about whether bigger is actually better for everything.  When it comes to satisfying your partner, do men really think that having that big sized penis really matter? Is it really the size that matters?

Different studies reveal that the size of the sexual organ is one of the concerns of most men today.  Whether you are straight or gay, you would like to increase the length, thickness and even change the look of its girth.  Based  on researches,  majority who are concerned about their organ size  and  sexual  desires  are  men  in their late 20′s and early 30′s and surprisingly,  even men older than 60′s. Some female cannot understand this obsession  about  the  penile  enlargement but vast majority of men thought that  having  more  than  enough  will  make  them a better lover and great performer in bed because we have this connotation that “more is better”.
The size of a male organ differs between men from different races and origin. Some taught that their penis is short but it’s actually not it’s just normal based on their height and weight.  A normal size of a penis is at least 4 cm and 7.5 cm long when erect but still depends on a man’s height and BMI.  Sometimes the organ shortens due to some conditions like weight gain and increase of fat in the pubic area. Men should be conscious on their diet because obesity can lead them to a serious sexual problem like erectile dysfunction and other concerns related to reproduction.

There are also few cases of inborn defects that cause the shortening of the penis, these situations requires surgical operations.  Some even consider having surgery to be able to lengthen their penis but most of them prefer the non surgical methods.  They use herbal preparation and even do regular exercise for penis enlargement.

They believe that the process of exercising penis for about 6 hours a day can actually contribute to the increase.  Some do it by pulling the penis to extend its tissue and it will lead to a satisfying result.  They need to stretch the penis with their hands but you need do it properly otherwise it will result to bruising and damaging of its nerves.

The use of penis pump is also popular and found to be effective when use over the span of 6 months.  Cock Rings can be used to fit around the organ and help augment size and maintain erections. Many companies also offers the  use  of  different  creams, gels and pills to maintain erection during sexual intercourse but these are just temporary remedies.

The growth of the penis is based on genes, hormones and environmental factors.   Many men who are not given a bigger penis, dream of having one. For  those  who would really like to increase their own, it will be best to consult  an  expert who can help you evaluate and find best ways to improve the size of your sexual organ.

Rainy Days…

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It’s been 5 days of non- stop raining, the streets are flooded and a lot of people are busy cleaning their houses and waiting for the flood to subside. But for some who live in condominiums and other safe places, who were not affected by the calamity, they consider these days as their rest days.
A lot of people are into social networking such as Twitter, Facebook and Instagram, etc.  There are some who keep on chatting with their friends as there are no other things to do due to class and work suspensions.

It may be considered as a boring long holiday, but I think this is the best time for couples to make intimate moment and find their sexy time.  The cold weather is really good for spending time with each other, to kiss and cuddle.   Cuddling is not only a way to express affection physically but it can also make you feel warm and secured.  Normally we treat rainy days as an excuse to do nothing but for couples to do any indoor activity which can strengthen the bond in their relationship.  There are a lot of things that  couples  can  do  during  rainy  days  it  may be listening to music, watch favorites movies, cook, eat together or even try to reminisce the  special  memories  they had.  They can even have some wine or pamper each other with aromatherapy massage matched with scented candles.

If the couple would choose to have it outdoor, they can also do a walk in the rain and get themselves soaking wet. Rainy days give chance to you and your special someone to have a warm time together and have fun.

How about if you are single?  What do you think you can do to beat this lonely time? Well, you need to be creative. You can’t just sit on the couch and have a movie marathon alone.  I suggest you can play with yourself, go on Cyber Sex or Sex on phone (SOP) or even get a help from your sex toy friend. All you need is a clean and satisfying dildo, a lubricant and a desire to go wild so you can enjoy that cold weather.  Anything is possible during this season, it’s up to you to enjoy and love rainy seasons.

Vibrators and everything…

Funtoys vibrators byfunfactory61 Vibrators and everything...Vibrators and everything…

 

Here in the Philippines, many are not open to using sex toys as we are known as a conservative country that’s why I was surprised to see a lot of sex toys shops in the internet. Also, a lot of physical shops and showrooms are sprouting like mushrooms in different capital cities across the country. What does it mean?  There is a huge market of these toys here in the Philippines, maybe Filipinos are just too shy to admit but many have one stash in their closets.

Every time we mention words like vibrators, dildos and anals we see different reactions from people around us. I just realized that it doesn’t make sense as sexual educations are being taught in schools as early as primary level. Bigger percentage of teenage pregnancy is being reported on a regular basis. A lot of organizations such as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) were formed. These only shows that Filipinos are now open minded and receptive to new things.

What are vibrators?  As defined in this site, vibrator is an electronic device designed to stimulate parts of a human body, it uses an electrically powered motor that is built in within the device to vibrate, pulsate and/or escalate which provides relaxation, sensation and stimulation, sounds exciting! All you need are batteries then you can have a sexual partner anytime of the day. But not everyone is aware that vibrator is not just for pleasure but it is also designed for caring’s one health.

Many studies proved that vibrators can lead to positive sexual performance for both men and women. For women who uses vibrators it increase desire, arousal, ease in orgasm and experience less pain during sexual intercourse.  For men who use vibrators for foreplay or intercourse with a female partner, reported improvement in their erectile dysfunction, self satisfaction and desire.  Surprisingly, none of them reported any side effects of using the device; it only proves that using vibrators can promote sexual wellness.

What are you still waiting for?  If you want to increase your satisfaction and orgasm all you need is a vibrator which you can bring into the bedroom and use it with your partner.  It will not be difficult to look for one as they are marketed widely through the internet and these also available in mainstream sellers.

When Boredom Over Sex Strikes

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Nowadays, we are stormed with sexualized advertisements, suggestive TV shows and aggressive articles suggesting that the key to great sex is simply a no-holds-barred approach and a satin thong. Thus, it’s no wonder why so many women or maybe men suffer in silence.

Very few women would dare admitting that they feel unhappy, unloved and miserable in their own bed and are clueless why their husband no longer desires them, wondering where the good sex went? Or has their passion been gradually taken away by domesticity and boredom?

 

 

Given the above premises, can it be rekindled by just having a one free night without your kids, your laundry or any work related deadlines?

It keeps me hanging and longing for answers…

Maybe I just need a little more of tenderness..

Maybe I just have to tell him exactly what I need..

Maybe magic should spark even just by gazing upon his slightly bulging physique..

Maybe it’s just a simple matter of being spontaneous and just doing it..

Expert says that couples with good sex lives, it transpires, meet each other half way. Sometimes one isn’t in the mood, but does it anyway and ends up enjoying it. Sometimes a cuddle is enough.

 According to some happy couples, it’s a simple matter of Just Doing It. A combination of husbands scaling down the pestering and giving more practical help with children and housework, and women simply choosing to have sex, rather than waiting for lightning to strike, was the unexpectedly simple key.

 But in long-term relationships, sexual frustration isn’t usually about sex at all: it’s about loneliness and rejection.

 And maintaining desire isn’t all about hormones and hotel rooms: it’s much more a matter of choosing to show your partner you love them – even if you don’t always feel like it.

 Maybe I just want the chance to be physically closer to him, and to feel loved and accepted in return, despite my stained underarm and round tummy..

Oh yes, maybe exploring and using the so-called sex toys can help me strike out that boredom and make my bed a happy one once again..

It may be difficult to imagine those worlds of tricks and toys, positions, pulsations, vibrations, but maybe it is worth giving it a try and this imagination led me to this site.

Across the Miles Intimacy

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A laidback afternoon for me would be a good time in bed, wearing a lingerie, with my feet brushing through the soft and warm feel of my sheets. That’s my way of hibernating especially when the rain won’t stop outside and the cold wind would numb every tip of my body. But while hibernation means slowing down and a state of inactivity to conserve some useful energy, it will keep my mind awake and my imagination to soar far across thousands of miles between me and my boyfriend – then daydreaming and fantasies start. Unnoticed and unconsciously, my afternoon has just dug another hole in the core of my missing and longing.

 

And so that I would not end up with tears when I transition from hibernating, I liberalize myself with other stuff that interests me. I would match this slow phase with reading – a piece of book or magazine or browsing through the net. Because I consider these laidback moments serene and a perfect time to be alone with myself, I always see to it that I get sensible resolve for my personal issues, inhibitions, doubts, aspirations, etc. Topping my list are usually the topics where I can immerse myself well. And so, sustaining and surviving a long distance relationship always frequents the search engines of Google.

 

I have always been confident that no matter how high and sturdy the walls are and how endless the distance is between two people, as long as the faith for love is strong, they will always end up together. But on one occasion during a friend’s party, I had some good conversation with my high school pals and one of them, out of bitterness proclaims that long distance relationships rarely survive. In a snap, I felt a strike inside my head – I saw myself in the same situation and I didn’t want to lose my grip on what I have always believed in. It made me pull the trigger to find out why and so I asked. He had just ended a 4-year relationship with his girlfriend who’s working in an Arab country. They tried to make communication lines open as always as possible but they could not afford to stand missing a lot of each other and so before things would get even worse and sweet moments become sour, they decided to cool off at first; then, eventually broke up and let time dictate their destiny.

 

The whole long distance breaking-up story of my friend created questions that since then have lingered in my head – reality and fairytale. Whenever I search for topics to read, I would always key in stories of long distance relationships. It even bothered me that most of those I read, at least 80% says that loving from miles apart would usually lasts for awhile and eventually both would realize that they want someone closer.

 

And so instead of reading through heart-breaking stories, I switched to searching for tips on how to make love across the distance work. I got to read creative ways of how each day would feel like you are physically together, some ways of flirting while on chat, messages that will heat him up and call for a hot phone sex, etc. These are just a few of them. And so I have come to my realization that I should no longer be doubting my long distance flame.

 

From those helpful tips, I wanted to be creative on my own – thought of ways on how I can make my man hard in just soft whispers over phone calls, how I can make him wanting more even without real sex, how I can make him think about sex all the time.

 

Of course, before I could start with my plans, I needed to safeguard myself in such a way my man wouldn’t notice that I am initiating the flirt. I didn’t want him to create that kind of impression on me. I wanted to stay just as how he knows me.

 

The perfect time has come – while he kept on telling me that he misses me so badly on a skype night, I started licking my upper lip so he’d notice the gesture. I know that whenever I do that, he’d turn hard and would want to start the game. Then he popped the words I waited for so long to hear – he wanted to do me online. I could feel every bit of his urge and so I continued to touch my lips with my fingers. He likes it when I do that. I slowly reached through my top tank from my neck down and I could see his beaming eyes wanting to see more of my flirting. Then I stopped. I needed to reserve some for the next. I shouldn’t be giving him all at once.

 

More skype nights came and we became more comfortable of being intimate online. After the sweet skype sex, we will discuss stuff about us, share our everyday experiences, talk about our lives apart, crack funny jokes like what we do when we are together, patch issues we never discussed, reminisce the good old days…and so on. Unnoticed and unconsciously, we become closer, love has grown deeper, attitude towards our relationship becomes more mature, we no longer mind the distance between us – we feel more secured.

 

The thought that long distance relationships are hard to nurture and sustain may come from those who are afraid to take risks and get hurt. I have a different view with that of my friend when he decided to break up with his girlfriend because he cannot stand missing her so bad. For me, the more I miss my boyfriend, the more my love grows stronger.

 

Picking him up at the airport for each year’s vacation has always been like the first. The excitement never fades; it’s even more intense every time.


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