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On Frigidity..

image 263 On Frigidity..The term frigidity is defined as the inability of a woman to attain orgasm during intercourse or can be referred to a female sexual arousal disorder. This can also be related to lack or absence of sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity. To have a better understanding of the definition it is the counter part of impotence which is being experienced by male individuals.

This may not be known to many of us but there is a very high percentage of women having this kind of dilemma.  Some research books say that there are 2 kinds of frigidity; the first one is the total lack of sexual desire while the other one still has sexual desire but lacks desire for current partner.  These situations can be acquired through time or lifelong, which means that person has no sexual desire since birth.  In some cultures low sexual desire especially for women may be normal and on the contrary having high desire is a problem for them. This means that the concept whether the sexual desire is in a “normal” level depends on the culture and values of an individual.

Before females are plainly home makers, her main task is to nurse and train the children as well as prepare the clothing and food for the family and all other household chores which for some are very demeaning and more often they are being subjected to abuse because of financial dependency to their male partners. Sometimes this obstructs their sexual responses and psychological development.  Modern females are no longer just wives and mothers they contribute primarily on the finances which supports the whole family. They have now their careers and they are empowered to do everything because of their financial and economic stability.

There are actually a lot of factors affecting the sexual desire of a women, it can be a medical or health condition, psychiatric problem, environment or even her present relationship with her partner (having other woman or even financial stress) which prevent them from reacting to their intimate moments.  There are also females who take medicines which can affect their sexual arousal; example is taking birth control pills.  Sometimes if you feel being degraded because of unusual things present inside your bedroom like using sex toys or hand cuffs (for role play) you tend to respond negatively to your partner’s sexual actions.  For some having a bad experience in terms of intercourse, maybe its not pleasing or plainly the act is not satisfying that’s why they do not feel being aroused?

In our society, we recognize that sexual incompatibility is a problem and it is considered as a stress for the couple, more often it can lead to misunderstanding. But how does a male partner reacts to frigidity?  Some may also lack interest in having sexual intercourse as the female partner is not responding to his actions.  For some, they may care a little because more than anything they value the relationship and the companionship they spent through the years.

Masturbation..A Good or A Bad Habit?

mast1  Masturbation..A Good or A Bad Habit?Masturbation is defined by  many as a sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals, usually  to  the point of having orgasm. This means that you do need  a  partner  to  be  able  to  do this, you may ask for help from your friendly  vibrators  and sex toys or just simply use your hands or fingers. You may touch or rub your genitals and breasts (for female) to achieve your desired  sexual enjoyment.  Masturbation in the simplest word is having sex with yourself.

Studies found that masturbation is normal in both genders and applicable in  all ages. Some  surveys say that men actually masturbate more frequent compared to women.  For some, the younger ones masturbate a lot compared to the  older  ones  maybe because of curiosity. In reality, the normal times that  a  person masturbate is actually from several times per day to a week until  a  month  of  not  masturbating  at  all. There  are actually a lot variations  that  you  can do while masturbating.  Some prefer to videotape themselves while doing the act, others would love to have audience to watch them in action while the rest is comfortable masturbating in front of their partners.  Actually  for  the  others  they  feel embarrassed when doing it especially if being seen by someone.

Information from Health Survey shows that there is a great percentage of among  men  and  women  who  actually engaged in “sex in one’s self”. Some people  think that only people without partners are the ones doing the act, what  they don’t know is that most people with regular partners continue to masturbate. For  some, those who masturbate must be experiencing sexually deprivation  but its actually not. Many say that masturbating is related to having  mental  or sexual disorder.  Is masturbating really bad or good for an individual?

Here are some of the benefits of masturbating:

  • having safe sex
  • will not lead to unplanned pregnancy
  • treatment for sexual dysfunction
  • releases sexual tension
  • relaxes your muscles
  •  helps you fall asleep
  • reduces stress
  • enhances self-esteem

The one listed above are the benefits of masturbating in general it is a healthy way of sexual enjoyment. It is also important that you should familiarize your self with your own sexual responses so that you will know how to explain to your partner your needs and wants and it will eventually lead to a satisfying sexual encounters. Understanding what “turns on” the person is actually a great advantage to build the individual’s confidence and make the person feel content.

Here are the list of disadvantages:

  • Damage intelligence
  • Damage eye sight
  • Damage the organ
  • Feel tired and mentally disturb

In general there are a lot of benefits compared to its unsupported disadvantages.  Does this mean that we encourage everybody to do masturbation? Doing that is actually the person’s own preference based on his or her beliefs. If the person feels that it will be beneficial for him or her better do it but for the others who are a bit conservative and concern of what other people might think, they also have the option of not doing it.

Is it LOVE or LUST?

love or lust2 Is it LOVE or LUST?Do you really know the difference between love and lust? If someone is in a relationship or just admiring somebody from afar, it is difficult to determine what you truly feel for that person. How do you spot if it is a true love? You will know that it is love if you are committed to your partner for the rest of your life. You are with that person for a long time and very much aware of his or her flaws and you can’t even imagine life without that person despite your differences. You don’t need anything from this individual but you still need to stay his or her side. In terms of physical intimacy, you feel closer o the person after having sex and you always try thing to keep the flame alive in your relationship. If that person is the one that you think of when you want to share your innermost thoughts, then it must be love. 

Lust on the other hand is defined as a strong sexual desire or overwhelming crave for sexual pleasure like a sex toy. If you are in a relationship and you are looking for someone to boost your ego or you are looking to catch someone to go to bed with wearing that fancy lingerie, maybe what you feel is lust. You need this person because you benefit from him or her sexually or any other things. You don’t even see yourself settling down with this person and can’t act naturally if your with him or her; this is just infatuation or just a simple lust. For some, they can’t deny the fact that they are longing for that lust that helps them to increase their confidence and to feel that they are desirable. Actually men are more inclined to have one night stands while women then to connect love and lust to a higher degree like romance. Like men focus on body parts and things which are pleasing to the eyes,  women are more on security and serious matters

Nowadays, it is really confusing to define love but in this modern time you can actually feel in love even without having regular sex, this is applicable especially for partners who have been together for a long time already. For them, it is no longer the physical attraction that keeps them together but their attachment and commitment to one another that makes their relationship stronger. We now want our partner to give us both stability and affection, respect for our own individuality. We need to provide all the security to our partner that no matter what happens the relationship will stand through the test of time. It is really a challenge to survive especially now that a lot of temptations are present and it is truly impossible to sustain the desire to grow old together unless you really want to make it happen. We all know that love is a wonderful feeling that can be achieved if you have trust and respect for each other.

 

Homosexuality and Anal Sex

homosexuality usa4 Homosexuality and Anal Sex We  all  know  that there are 2 kinds of gender present on earth, a male and a female but we can’t  deny that fact that there are other sexes in between, they are from the  community of lesbians and gays. Lesbian and gay people are homosexual or those who are sexually attracted to members of the same sex. This means that they prefer the same sex relationship from romantic to just close relationships. Some of them even bring their relationship to another level and decided to have same sex marriage which is acceptable in some parts of the globe.

It is difficult to define homosexuality because some people who are known  to  be  lesbians or gays  enter  or  have  entered  heterosexual relationships. For example, a married man who eventually left his wife of 10 years for a gay person or a now lesbian who had sexual relationship withhis boyfriend of 5 years. So it’s really confusing, that’s why we have asmall percentage of people who engage in themselves in same sex practice or identify themselves as gay or lesbian.

For those who prefer same sex for a partner especially for gays, they are engaged in anal sex or anal intercourse. The term anal sex is widely known as the penile-anal penetration which is also common in lesbian sexualpractices. This is the act of inserting the penis into another person’sanus or rectum to satisfy their sexual need. Fingering and use of sex toys such as butt plugs, anal beads and P-spots can also be considered anal sex.

Homosexual  intimate  moments  include  experimenting  on  penile-anal, mouth-penile  and  hand-anal  and  even  mouth-anal which  can  expose anindividual to different bacteria and micro organisms. We all know that rectum is not designed to do such activity; it is far from the function ofa female vagina.  The latter has its natural lubricants which can easily accommodate the penetration of a male organ.  The female vagina can endure the force and friction that a sexual interaction can bring.  On the other hand, the anus is a delicate part which is intended to eliminate toxins or fecal waste.  Having anal sex will seriously result to damaging the part by frequent friction and stretching.

These sexual relationships between members of the same sex are exposed to the risks of having Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), physical injuries and for some they even suffer from psychological problems. Having casual sex is not new to some; they are fond of doing “it” with a multiple partners which can lead to the risk of contacting diseases associated with risky sexual practices.  Most of them are susceptible to bacteria which can lead to diseases such as herpes, syphilis, Chlamydia and many more.

If you experience symptoms, do not hesitate to see your doctor. Simple sore throats should not be neglected because it can usually lead to a serious disease like HIV. All we need to do is to take that extra precaution to have safe sex by using condoms or simply by being hygienic during intercourse. Have your regular HIV test because prevention is always better than cure.

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